At age eleven Emily Lindin was declared a slut and “harassed incessantly at school, after school, and online,” she says.
- Howard College in San Angelo hosted a drive-thru graduation ceremony Thursday evening. For graduate, Felicia Garcia, getting her associates degree was bittersweet. “It really made me stop.
- The long-troubled girl—a chronic runaway who lived with foster parents—jumped to her death at a packed train station on Staten Island this week because she was bullied, police say. 'Kids are saying.
- According to fellow students at Tottenville High School, Garcia was the target of bullying and slut-shaming because, according to the NY Post she had sex with four football players at the same time.
- Felicia Garcia, a 15-yr-old Staten Island high school girl, jumped to her death in front of a train after a video of her having sex with four footballers was posted online. Two students have been.
A diary entry:
Summary: Felica Garcia's birthday is and is 45 years old. Previously city included Albuquerque NM. Felica also answers to Felicia Jones, Selica Jones, Felica Jones and Felicia Garcia, and perhaps a couple of other names.
Aaron said he had heard that Zach “ate me out.” I wasn’t sure what that meant, but I said it wasn’t true, just to be on the safe side.
Fifteen years later she recalls:
I have a very painful memory of watching an instant message window pop up from an account called DieEmilyLindin and reading the message: “Why haven’t you killed yourself yet, you stupid slut?”
Now, at age 27 she is publishing her diary (with names disguised) on a Tumblr she calls the UnSlut Project, hoping to serve as an ‘It Gets Better’ project for girls who’ve been slut-shamed.
I’ve been thinking about this amidst an onslaught of tragedies like these:
- Fifteen-year-old Felicia Garcia of Stanton Island had sex with four football players, which was recorded and shared around her school. Two players began tormenting her and others joined in. Felicia jumped in front of a Staten Island train.
- Four boys assaulted seventeen-year-old Rehtaeh Parsons of Nova Scotia, labeled her a “slut” and shared a photo online. Then, the whole school started harassing her. Rehtaeh hung herself.
- Fourteen-year-old Samantha Kelly also hung herself, unable to withstand the taunting and harassment that followed a police report of her rape.
I’ve often wished that an “It Gets Better” project could help girls like them make it through and go on to live fulfilling lives.
Others’ opinions can have a big impact on how we see ourselves. Our personal identities can seem merely “subjective,” but when many others agree that we are “X” — for good or for ill — it can seem “objective.”
Still, each of us has more knowledge about ourselves than anyone else. And we can consider the motives behind the labeling. Kids who bully are trying to raise themselves up by putting others down. If they really thought they were so great, they wouldn’t have to make so much effort.
Luckily, it does get better because people grow up, mature and become more secure.
And, the ex-bullied may become stronger, more empathetic and deepened.
Felicia Garcia Hooters
In the meantime, maybe Emily’s blog will help others to know that they’ve got support… and that it gets better.
Felicia Garcia Video
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